What do I wear to a party? Well, there are a few things to consider first:
Does the space allow nudity?
Do you have to pass through a public space before the event?
What is your role at the event?
Dos and Don’ts
Dress as sexy as you like! This is your chance to literally let your freak flag fly. Have a harness or roleplay outfit you’ve been dying to wear? Always wanted to cross-dress or do some gender-fucky? Now’s the time.
Always have a cover-up available – be it a robe, muumuu, dress, or similar – in case of emergency.
Consider wearing comfy clothes over or alongside your sexy gear – a hoodie and sweatpants are great when you’re coming down from a scene.
Bring indoor, flat footwear. (Note: indoor shoes are required in The Warehouse)
Dress comfortably – nothing that restricts regular movement when socializing.
Bring a towel (or 2). They really do come in handy! (Note: Towels are required if using the hot tub, or to lay on furniture if nude.)
Wear stilettos or any footwear with sharp details (like spiked boots).
Wear spiked clothing if you plan to play on the furniture.
Wear anything that requires 2 or more people to put on or remove.
Wear anything that restricts breathing or that you plan to use as such – collars are fine – as long as they are not used for breath control.
Wear anything considered a hate symbol. This includes any patches or insignia with hate symbols or speech.
Impersonate law enforcement or any other enforcement agency.
What’s a barrier? Barriers (often referred to as “protection”) include condoms, internal condoms, gloves, dental dams, saran wrap – anything meant to reduce fluid transmission from person to person. Barriers are not a fail-proof method. It’s important to look up the statistics for each method. When is it a good does to use a barrier? Some examples include:
New or non-fluid bonded partners
Anonymous play (including glory holes)
Any time you switch between partners
Any time you switch between mouth, anus, or vagina with a partner with either your mouth, hand, a toy, or genitals
When using silicone toys with silicone lube
With “pervertables” – objects used for insertion that aren’t designed for this use
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barriers do not replace soap and water washing and sanitization.
when borrowing toys, ensure you’re using the condoms provider by the owner, due to latex allergies and other considerations.
Dispose of barriers as soon as they’re removed from play.
If a barrier rips, tears, or fails, replace it immediately.
Wash hands, genitals, and toys with soap and water after play
So you’re packing your bag for your very first Fog City Kink play party, and you’re wondering what to bring! Well, just like packing for camp, a great experience means being prepared. Here is a list of essential and optional items to bring with you.
Towel (microfibre or quick dry is best)
Coverup/robe or similar
Preferred barrier methods & lube (some are provided but we all have preferences)
We are often asked for clarification on event dress codes. Here are some helpful definitions as you think about what you’d like to wear to a Fog City Kink event.
Vanilla – Vanilla Dress are your everyday, non-kink clothes. Choose something comfortable that makes you feel good about yourself. At a vanilla event, there is no nudity, genitals and nipples must be covered!
Formal – Sometimes we like to put on something special for an event! Formal Dress events invite you to wear something fancy that suits your gender expression and personality.
Photo by Antonio Friedemann on Unsplash
Fetish Wear/Gear – Fetish Wear includes all the fun kinky items you might own! When attending a play event consider the type of play you’ll be doing, that should dictate what you wear. Comfort is key!
Some of you have asked, so here’s the 411. A slosh is a munch without food. What’s a munch, you ask? A gathering of kinky folks for conversation and connection.
Fog City Kink is committed to hosting sloshes/munches for our local community for a couple of different reasons.
To build IRL community. We love our online kink community but meeting with folks in person, sharing experiences, making new connections, is important to us.
To create a safe space for newcomers to get the information they need. Being isolated as a newcomer to BDSM and other kinks leaves new folks at risk of exploitation. We want them to know they have a community they can come to with questions and concerns.
These community gatherings are the perfect spaces to vet for our events. We can do a vibe check, go over our rules & expectations, and walk folks through the membership process.